Continuing with my better late than never theme, I thought I'd post some of my goals for 2010. (Calling them resolutions pretty much insures that I will fail at them, so this year we're going with goals.)
I have 3 main areas I want to work on this year. They are my relationship with Ricky, my health (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and my "stuff". (I know that "stuff" is pretty vague, but it encompasses a few things that don't really warrant their own category.)
Relationship with Ricky
- Turn off the TV at night. We are soooo bad about just plopping down on the couch and zoning in front of the TV once Little Ricky goes to bed. The next thing you know it's bedtime for us and we have barely spoken to each other. No good! Of course we aren't going to miss important things like Project Runway or The Office, but when we do watch TV it should be because there is something specific we want to watch and not just out of laziness.
- Plan some kind of date night once a month. I think one of the best gifts we can give Little Ricky is to show him a healthy, loving relationship. We both want to make sure that we don't fall into the trap of just being his parents and forget who we are as a couple. These date nights don't have to be elaborate and sometimes we may not even leave the house. They could mean anything from a night at the theatre to staying at home and making dinner together (and not eating it in front of the TV!)
- Continuing with the no take-out/delivery plan we've been following for a few months.
- Eating/cooking healthier. As we aren't ordering in very much anymore, we've already started working on this goal. It's really not as hard as I thought it would be. We're not being sticklers about it (no tofu!), but what we've discovered is most things we make are healthier than that pizza or burger we use to order!
- Work out at least 3 times a week. Okay, this is going to be the hard one for me. I've never been one of those people who gets a buzz out of working out. In fact, I'm the girl who used to say that sweating was against my religion! I have a drawer full of workout DVD's that I've bought over the years. With each one I think "this is the one that I won't hate, the one that will make me want to work out every day." Yeah, right. It's time I grow up and realize that I don't like to work out, but I need to do it anyway and stop looking for that magic DVD that will change my life. Having said that I did get EA Fitness for Wii and Jillian Michael's Shred for Xmas (both still unused! Told you I don't like to work out!) so I'm hoping I'll enjoy them at least a little. I planned to start working out a couple of weeks ago, but have had a cold. I'm well this week, but we've had company and I can't work out in front of people (I'm also really good with the excuses to not work out!), but she leaves tomorrow so tomorrow it begins. Pray for me.
- On a spiritual health note, Ricky and I are both committed to going to church more this year. So far we've gone more than we did last year. That wasn't hard as last year we went ONCE! I grew up with a wonderful church experience and I really want Little Ricky to have a church family like I did. Plus I think it will be good for all 3 of us to have church in our lives.
- Socialize more. Ricky and I really enjoy each other's company (even when we spend too much time watching TV) and if we're not careful we can neglect our friendships so we want to make sure we spend time with friends at least once a month. Much like our date nights, these don't have to be elaborate. We can invite people in for a little take-out (our no take-out rule doesn't apply to socializing) and some Wii or we can find something fun to do out and about. It's less about WHAT we're doing and more about WHO we are doing it with.
- Take more time with my appearance when at home. (I file this and socializing under health, because they are things that will make me feel better about myself.) I am pretty good about making sure I look presentable any time I leave the house--cute outfit, make-up, hair done, etc. But on the days I'm not going anywhere I find it difficult to find a reason to do my hair and make-up. Hell, if I'm being honest, I find it difficult to find a reason to get dressed. Many a day Ricky comes home from work to find me in the same pj's I was in when he left. Now I can easily justify this--I spend the day at home rolling around on the floor playing with Little Ricky and he doesn't care what I look like. But I don't think I should justify it. Ricky deserves to come home to a wife who is somewhat presentable. Now he has never complained and I don't know if it bothers him, but I feel like it's something I should do for him. I also feel like it's something I should do for me. I know I feel better about myself when I've slapped on a little lip gloss. Don't get me wrong--I don't plan to be in my Sunday best on the days I'm at home, but it wouldn't kill me to put on jeans or nice yoga pants and a little make-up. When I was younger I remember my mom touching up her face before my dad got home for work every night. I think it's nice that she made that effort for him and I want to make the same effort for Ricky. (I guess this could get filed under our relationship, too!)
- Straighten the house before we go to bed. I straighten the house every day, but by bedtime there are toys on the floor, the cushions on the couch are smooshed, etc. Used to I'd go to bed and deal with it in the morning, but we started working on this in January and I feel so much better waking up to a house that is already put together.
- Deal with mail as it comes in. I've gotten into a horrible habit of just stacking my mail on my desk and dealing with it "later." When is later? Sometimes it's tomorrow, sometimes it's next week, sometimes it's next month. I always pull the bills and deal with them immediately, but things like catalogues end up piling up to the point that it takes me a couple of hours to clear it all out. I've already begun working on this and one of the main things I've done is as I receive a catalogue I go to the company's website and opt out. This is already making a huge difference in the amount of junk mail I receive.
- Blog every day. I really like blogging, but I tend to treat it like a luxury--something I'll do when I have loads of free time. News flash, Lucy--you have a baby. You will never have loads of free time again!! I know blogging isn't a necessity, but it is something I enjoy. It keeps me connected to some of my friends and it is a creative outlet for me. So I need to make it more of a priority.
So there ya go. I plan on revisiting each of these goals on the 1st of each month to keep you updated on how I'm doing. (And to keep me accountable.) Stay tuned...